Enter the Dating Chat
It’s been just over a year since my marriage ended. All of my friends have been encouraging me to get into the dating pool via some online dating apps. And I keep thinking “WTF NO”. I’ve watched some good friends of mine talk about their experiences with dating apps and it seems like a cess pool. Why would I even try it??
I had met someone a couple months ago; downtown, at a bar, while I was celebrating my birthday.
I even laughed in his face, right outloud, when he asked for my number and that he would call me the following morning. Like literally “HAHA MHMMM OOKKKK You will” was my response. He argued that he would and I finally was like sure, let’s see how this plays out. Funny thing, he DID call the next MORNING and I was like whaaatttt????
We met at a coffee shop the following afternoon. Hilariously I panicked that WHAT IF I DONT RECOGNIZE HIM ….I was….a touched intoxicated on my birthday night soooooo….. who knows. Lucky for me, I did recognize him and we had a lovely date. I knew pretty much right away that this man would not be a long term thing but he was nice and I thought why not just enjoy this for a bit? He was young, like….7 years younger than me which meant he was still in his 20s! Oooof! But we laughed and had fun getting to know what another. We would hang out when I had my weekends alone and talk via snapchat (good ole snappy snap) during the week. It was honestly a nice dive into this world while it lasted. I was just a baby, a teenage baby the last time I was single so what the hell did I know about real life dating as an adult? NOTHING. It turned out that he confided a pretty intense confession of personal trouble and that he didn’t want to fall in love or hurt me. UMMMMMM who said anything about love?? Blech. I was certainly not ready for that! But I mean….also, I am pretty awesome **flips hair* so I can totally understand why someone might fall in love with me. HAHAHAHA. So I used my connections, my heart and my compassion and I helped him every way I could.
A few months later, I facilitated the end to the “relationship” and he reciprocated with understanding and agreement! Nothing terrible had happened, but the time had run it’ course. And we both were on to something new with our lives. He actually THANKED me for the past few months, for everything I did for him and that he wished me a lifetime of happiness. I learned some very valuable self information, and gained some valuable confidence I was so desperately lacking.
It truly was the best possible scenario I could have for my first “dating” experience. The majority of my friends were dumbfounded and some a little incredulous as to how I could have such a wonderful first dive. And I don’t know what the answer is, maybe the universe thought “let’s give this bitch a break” for once this year. Maybe I manifested it to be so. Maybe I got lucky. Regardless of what it was, I am thankful for it.
